"So I know this doesn’t matter in the grand scheme of things, but at the end of this will these little girls and boys know that I wasn’t a bad guy?"

He looked at me kindly and shook his head,

"We have to stay undercover. They will always think you were just one of the many bad people in their lives. It’s the hardest part of this job. Without question."

Meg Conley was was asked to join the team of O.U.R on their last mission to Domincan Republic. The story she tells is heartbreaking.


This is where my heart landed.

I started a facebook page called 2 Minutes for Hope. (please join us.)

The goal is to pray 2 minutes everyday for the victims of human trafficking, their families, the investigators, and for all involved. 

Pray for hope.

Pray for justice.

Pray that we can see amazing numbers of rescued children in the days ahead. 

I will bring information, hopeful stories and faces to pray for. I pray that God will use this.

We have already seen God return one girl to safety. (I was over the moon.) And I pray He rescues more. And I pray that more of these people treating people as commodities will have a changed heart. Or be brought to justice.

I also found this organization that goes in and rescues these children. And I put my money where my heart is, after seeing the good they are doing.

These guys will send you updates after an operation and a text every time a child is rescued.

This is good stuff.

This is shining a light.

Always remarkable what some kids have to do to get an education.



My Heart Breaks

Warning: Link Contains Upsetting Content

This story breaks my heart. And I don’t mean it in a trivial way. It explodes into a fire that smolders and I cannot break free of this passion for justice. My heart cannot look away from this. It cannot un-know it.

My heart breaks. For everyone involved.

Obviously for the children. I cannot know how they survive in a world of hopelessness. For them my heart aches and I pray that God would deliver them from this life and that they would be Kings and Queens of the next life, innocence restored. Living in unbelievable peace, free from other people’s absolute evil.

For the parents, it seems an unfathomable state of living. Because when your child is gone, no matter the age - you must feel hopelessness that is unimaginable. What do you hope for? Your heart must be lost with them. Having no idea where they are, what is happening to them. God, hear the broken hearts of these parents.

My heart is broken for the investigators whose job it is to review and immerse themselves in this culture. These things cannot me unseen. God protect their hearts somehow.

For the perpetrators and addicts to these films. Yes. Them too. Because how many of them were victims themselves? How many of them were trapped in this cycle of hurt and evil by someone who broke them as a child? How many of them have families and loved ones whose lives are being turned upside down by this? God give them the strength to break free, to seek help. And to find it.

Those who make, distribute and profit from such films?

I honestly don’t know how to hope for people who live in such a dark place in humanity as this. God is absolutely capable of freeing people from the all-encompassing darkness that resides in their hearts. I believe He is able to redeem anyone. But people who deal in this sort of debauchery and evil…what can touch and break their hearts? What will bring them out of the underworld that comes with this sort of lifestyle? Hurting a child in this way takes a hard heart, the depths of which it seems little can penetrate. God, do as you see fit - it’s all I can muster.

And then the question comes: what can I do about it?

As much as I would love to go vigilante and rescue these children, these young ladies, these boys, I cannot. I sit here, heart aching for them and their mommas and knowing there is nothing I can do to make them safe, to end the inconceivable abuse.

But there has to be something I can do. Something that can help end this cycle. As I laid in bed this morning, half asleep, my head was swimming in and out of consciousness, I thought about this question.

What can I possibly do?

I can teach my sons and daughters that every life has value.

That people do not merely exist for the singular purpose of making us happy, or fulfilling our wants and desires. That is to treat someone as though they have no soul.

That we must all stand up for justice, no matter how hard or uncomfortable it makes us.

I can talk to them about sex and the beauty of it and be certain to not make it something they feel must be hidden. God made sex - it was part of His beautiful plan for us. Plain and simple. 

I can give my money to people who are in the fight to end this epidemic, whether by getting involved or by teaching about the realities of it.

I can spread the word to my friends and family via social media. Statistics are important but faces and names and news stories speak loudly.

I can invite people to come and hear what they can do, what part they can play in ending human trafficking and child pornography.

But this problem seems so big. How can we help children we can’t even find?

As I stood my the kitchen this morning, I thought about it again. And I felt God reminding me that even though I might feel hopeless and helpless, He is not. He is mighty.

What if we, as Christians, put our faith in the God we claim to believe it? What if we committed to praying daily for the victims, the parents, the addicts, the investigators? What if we stopped putting our heads in the sand and started learn about how terrible this is and what it looks like and where it happens (in your city and my city)? 

What if we blow this thing wide open? What if we start looking at statics, stand up for the marginalized, pray that there will be light that shatters the darkness?

This is what I want. This is what I expect from my God. And I believe it is what He expects of us.

He has shown you, O mortal, what is good.
    And what does the Lord require of you?

To act justly 

and to love mercy

and to walk humbly with your God.

Micah 6:8 

It seems especially difficult to encourage some Christians to learn about Human Trafficking or child pornography. It seems we have difficulty understanding how we could learn about it without subjecting ourselves to that darkness. 

And to an extent, that is true. But we do not need to see images in order to have our hearts broken and the passion for change ignited. Stories of hope, of victims rescued, are a powerful catalyst for change. 

We can’t expect to do anything about this if we don’t acknowledge it, educate ourselves and actively seek justice.

(Ideas. They are brewing in my head…)


This is here to remind me that I am still me, you know?

Because this journey that I am on has a way of putting blinders on me and making me feel like I am this…whatever the heck it is, with fatigue and moodiness and words that come out in the wrong way. 

But we all see this life mostly through the lens of what we are going through at the time, right? Except for the times where we are startled awake with someone else’s reality. And it feels awful and wonderful at the same time. Because it breaks through our sadness with more sadness but oh! There is solidarity in that, isn’t there? It does not diminish our troubles, but helps us see things in a different landscape  - which we may judge as better or worse than our own. But mostly it just is a different landscape. And our compassion is heightened because we see we are not the only ones. Not at all.

For a while it felt like I lost that creative part of me and I was mostly a robot, shuffling through life. And that was very sad for me because I love to laugh. But for a while, I just didn’t remember how to do it very well. The part of me that wondered if tribes, in cave-man days, were recognized by the shape of their nostrils rather than last names - that part of me lay dormant. For so long I assumed that it was gone for ever. 

But last month I saw it. And not just for an hour or a day but for a whole month! And I made myself laugh again and I wondered where I had been and I welcome myself back. And I was wonderful and I greeted everyone by name and I didn’t shrink back like I do sometimes and I made grand plans and dreamed up big ideas out loud.

And then it all crashed again. And then it was the me that cried in the Women’s Ministry meeting that young girls are trafficked and we are planning luncheons and I wondered how Jesus felt about that. And wondered out loud if we really are called to arrange Prayer Meetings and then I felt like just dropping out of life in general. Not dying, just being a hermit.

How do you blame hormones or bacteria for sudden weirdness in a grown-up, responsible, mature way with out seeming like a flake? Are there rules? Do I meet with someone, fill out a form? “This isn’t me. This isn’t who I normally am.” I just want a button or a sign or something.

Today I met with a Dr who told me that it was “probable” that I have Lyme Disease. She can’t say for certain because there is no good test that is covered by insurance for people that have possibly had Lyme for years. 

And just like that, I found myself at the foot of a mountain I suspected was there for a while. 

But that is all I know right now. Probably. 

Getting up the mountain is next. Or across, or around or whatever. And seeing if I can laugh a bit as I go.

I’m not scared. I’m not looking for pity. I just need to remember that sometimes I write things. Sometimes I am creative (or something that could pass for creativity.) I hope I find the old me, the one that throws her head up and laughs uproariously at absurdities. I hope I find myself in the journey around this mountain.

That’s beautiful, isn’t it?

I should print up a bumper sticker or an inspirational poster…

Tumblrs, you are the right people for this job. I am helping plan the women’s retreat for our church. Trying to find some games that haven’t been totally done to death. I want to play one that I call “In Other Words”, where we take the titles of movies, books and songs with a maritime theme (theme for the weekend is “Anchor For My Soul.”) and then swap them for synonyms and see if the ladies can guess what the are.

Example: Liberating William…the answer would be Free Willy.

Get it?

Your turn.

We need well-known/classics with a maritime theme so everyone can play.
You can give me just titles or if you enjoy a challenge and have a little time on your hands, you can swap them as well!

Any takers?
You guys are the best.

Is there anyway to block someone from following your blog? Some of these things that pop up following me…I’m rather dubious, and I would rather they not follow me.

I swear there was a “block” button before but I can’t find it now.

I know…I’m like a 90 year old. Who let me on the internet?

I’m thinking about changing the name of my blog to something that more aptly describes my life these days.

Because honestly, what we are headed toward is not even in the same country as simplicity.

I think wholeftthisraisinonthebathroomfloor  has a nice ring to it, don’t you?

The 6 Year Old started referring to breasts as “jumbaloes”, probably when he was 4 or 5 years old. This has become a family-favorite term.

However, the 3 Year Old just referred to them as “High-tops”.

Suddenly, a new contender.

I awake with your alarm, which rarely happens. Years of staying at home have made me immune to it but this morning I watch you sit up and stretch. This morning is one of the mornings you go to the homeless shelter to make breakfast for the residents. Even though you normally wake up around 5am or so for your 45 minute commute, on these mornings you get up at an unholy time. Hours I wouldn’t even know existed if it weren’t for early morning flights or bouts of insomnia.

You turn and put your arm around me and say that you might as well pray with me now so you don’t have to wake me up again and that is the epitome of you, of who you are. Blessing me and almost apologizing for it. You pray that God will bless our day and help us to bless those around us. In your case, it is already true.

How do you keep on, day after day? How do you not grow weary of blessing me, of this family? 

This summer, after the stroke, I watched you pick up this family and its well-being and strap it to your back with seemingly minimal effort. I worried about you. I worried how long you could keep doing both of our jobs. Even though the summer is your time to be at home, I knew the weight this all added to your shoulders. I knew you worried about me and what the impact would be and how long it would last and if it would happen again and I watched you make dinner and hold The Little one and I knew there must be such strain on you. But you made it seem effortless. As though you did it every day.

And even as we continue on, in search of answers for this…whatever it is that plagues me and zaps my energy in waves and leaves me feeling like a Familiar Stranger, you never complain. New Doctors and new treatments and herbs and supplements and you never complain. Money leaves this house faster than we can understand. You tell me you just want me to be well and if this is the answer, than it will all be worth it.

Can I say that I try for you? For our family? I want to be well again. I want to be the ‘Us’ we started out as. Before I ran out of steam. 

At Christmas, I catch a glimpse of us again, of who we are when I am well. We cook together and dance close in the kitchen and laugh so much, like we used to. And I absolutely absorb this time as I remember this version of us. The happy version of us who seemed to always be laughing. 

It isn’t at all that we aren’t happy. Just also tired, worn down. But I would still say that I am happy. Maybe you wouldn’t know that. I know I complain and grouch and say incredibly mean things ("You swept out here? It looks like one of the kids did it!) And you just laugh at me and shake your head and soon I am laughing too, marveling at just how ridiculous I can be. 

How do I deserve you? How did God line us up and measure us and find that we were the perfect match? Because it feels as though (at least these days) I barely bring anything to the table at all.

You tell me that I am beautiful and even as I approach 40 and I feel every day of it, you make it clear that you still find me beautiful.

And when we talk about how my hair is in such horrible shape and something needs to be done and you remind me of the last time and how I cried and I tell you this is different. My hair is falling out and breaking off (more of this mystery) and it lies there limp on my head and I need to do something with it. And I know you love my long hair. But you say you understand.

And when I come home and it’s so short and I feel like a soccer mom with baby bangs and you say I look beautiful and I cannot see any evidence to the contrary on your face. I believe you. Even though I feel ridiculous. Like a bear in a tutu.

How do you do that?

Sometimes, when you call to me from the bedroom and ask me where such-and-such is and I yell back at you and shake my head and wonder what you would ever do if I died. How would you survive without me?

But then the truth speaks clearly in my brain: How would I survive without him?

When we travel, I always hand my ticket and passport to you. I know I will lose them otherwise. I am like a child. I have maybe taken the garbage out 2 times in these past 14 years, mowed the lawn about the same amount of times. I don’t even know how to start or work the snow blower. So many times you have taken over various projects for me when you knew that I didn’t have it in me to finish.

You are the Charles to my (shabby) Caroline. 

At our family’s favorite BBQ restaurant, we decide to sit outside on the patio on the last of the warm fall days. I automatically take the kids out side to sit down and let you take care of ordering. I know you have it down to a science. When the server comes out to bring us our drinks, she tells me I have a good thing going and she nods to you. She tells me that her husband would have plopped down at the table and made her take care of the kids and the food (as I have done). She reminds me that I am blessed. At first, I am annoyed. Does she think I always sit around and let you do all the work? Does she think I am lazy? But I gently remind myself: yes, I work hard, too. But that doesn’t mean that I am not blessed by you and what a good father and husband you are. And I puff with pride by the fact that someone else sees how good I have it. How you take care of me - of us all.

Almost 15 years ago, I knew I loved you. You were what I had never known: selfless love, unconditional love. You never leave the room angry. You never let me go to bed angry. I never feel like you withdraw your love from me when we disagree. And I wonder at this, too. Who lives like this? Who doesn’t let their loved ones feel their wrath from time to time? To let their anger sit and glow like hot coals which may turn to flame at any second but which usually go out without incidence. This is what I have always known.

But you do not operate this way. So it takes me some time to learn the rules.

There are no rules with you. At least not for silly games of ignoring or pretending there is nothing wrong when there clearly is. 

Your rules are simple:

We will always kiss good night.

We will always pray in the morning.

We will never go to bed angry.

We will love each other forever.

I know you aren’t perfect. You get crabby,too. You leave your dirty socks in little piles by our bedroom door. Your love of sports baffles my mind. You have two speeds: Go, Go, Go and sleep. No matter what I cook/bake you always suggest the same thing: put chocolate chips on it.

But oh, your children and I see you as a Saint. Shouldn’t that make it so?

Even though I don’t usually hold with New Years Resolutions, this year I have one. It is this: to be the wife that you deserve, old self return or not. To love you the way that God intended, to lavish on you the same encouragement and praise you give to me.  

I love you, My Love.